The Fetishist's Handbook

My husband and I are experimenting with BDSM and also some sub/dom role play. My husband seems to be taking the role of sub very easily, and I am gravitating naturally to the dom role. But I'm a little clueless to be honest, I think I could be good at it and I love giving orders and being pleasured and giving some appraciation for my husband pleasing me.

Any doms able to give me some pointers?

I have had sex with men many times but do not consider myself gay as I have no emotion with the men, just the sex, just physical pleasure. Men know how to work a cock as obvious they have much practice with their own, and the feeling of the sex is very powerful. I have only emotional feelings with women, and would only have a relationship with women. The experience with men is almost like worship of the penis and coming, and a form of exercise. The rest of the world believe me to be straight and I only date women, I just meet men quietly for casual sex.

I have a fantasy which is too be taken by surprise by a powerful man and forced into having rough sex against my will, but the sex ends up being wonderful. In my real mind the idea makes me feel ill, especially after living through an abusive marriage, but for some reason deep inside the thought stirs strong feelings of sexual pleasure that I cannot explain. I fear if this was ever to happen in real life the event would be terrible and destroying, and I think woman rape is disgusting, but it is just a feeling that I do not know why it is there.

Are there any other spanking enthusiasts around the Erotic Woman universe? Although I haven't actively given a good spanking for several years, it is something I have enjoyed throughout my adult life. Mostly giving and sometimes receiving, with hand or paddle. Not too severe, but certainly enough to feel. There should be more spanking material in this wonderful site to satisfy an urge that I dare say many people, men and women, would feel. Can one become too old to spank or be spanked? I guess that is the position I find myself in at present.