Answer:

Hi Holly, thanks for the question.

Deep throating is simply a variation of oral sex. The idea is to take the penis all the way to the back of, and even slightly down, your throat. That part of your mouth squeezes your lover’s cock, the compact sliding creates fiction, and the whole thing feels wonderfully tight and warm for your lover.

Most men love it, although in truth very few have actually had it performed properly on them, simply because it is a difficult thing to do. Everybody has something called a “gag reflex”…a natural physical reaction that shuts off the oesophagus to prevent things like drowning or ingesting anything too quickly.

To be capable of giving a deep throat blowjob, you must first learn to overcome your gag reflex. So how do you do that? There are a few different methods, most of which focus on desensitising and controlling the reflex to allow you take the cock more fully into your mouth.

Some people use their fingers to tickle the area at the back of their throat, some use a toothbrush and practice every time they brush their teeth, and others train themselves to effectively scull a large drink.

The idea is to trigger the gag reflex, and whilst it is active, learn to control the relevant muscles and overcome it. It can be done with some patience and practice, similar to how we learn pelvic floor exercises. You can actually learn “on the job” as well.

Take the dick into your mouth and edge it as far back as you can. Feel the gag reflex start, hold it as long as possible, then ease the penis back out of your mouth and try again. Each time you will find it a little easier to perform, and you will also slowly increase how far back you can take the cock into your throat.

Obviously you will need your partner to be willing to work with you, and support your efforts. Hopefully he will appreciate what you are trying to do. If he doesn’t, then don’t even bother going through the process, because he doesn’t deserve it.

A 2001 study by the British Dental Journal found that stimulating a pressure point just behind your ear can effectively inhibit the gag reflex. That’s a useful fact, but difficult to incorporate into your lovemaking. The bottom line is that learning to deep throat is not the easiest thing to do, but it can be done with some patience and practice.

It is only one variation of oral sex though, and you can certainly give a wicked blowjob without needing to deep throat. Also be aware that some women’s physiology simply won’t allow them to learn the technique, so if you have tried and tried and it is not working then don’t keep flogging a dead horse. It doesn’t lessen you as a lover in anyway.

In some women the gag reflex is too strong, or their throats are too small, they get an intense sense of choking or their jaw gets sore very easily. And remember the gag reflex is there for a reason, so totally desensitising it might not be the best idea anyway.

The term “deep throat” comes from the 1972 porno that starred Linda Lovelace (Linda Boreman) and Harry Reems, and which was directed by Gerard Damiano. Incidentally, some people claim that “Deep Throat” is one of the highest grossing movie of all time, with some figures pointing to $600 million dollars in takings. Not bad for a flick which cost only $25,000 to make and took less than 6 days to shoot.

“Deep Throat” is famous because it spawned a trial on the grounds of obscenity, of which Harry Reems was found guilty (Lovelace and Damiano turned state witness believe it or not). Reems was later cleared on appeal.

The movie is also famous for its seedy undertones. There was heavy Mob involvement in both production and its promotion, and Linda Lovelace claimed in 1986 that “virtually every time someone watches that movie, they’re watching me be raped”. In many ways, both good and bad, “Deep Throat” is an iconic movie within the realm of pornography.

xxx

The Erotic Woman

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