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Hi Lila, thanks for your question. Quite a controversial subject this one!

Firstly, it is true that some women squirt ejaculate when they orgasm. I know because I am one of them; not every time, not even all that often, but I know I do it during particularly intense orgasms or when I am just really in the sexual flow, relaxed and totally letting go.

It feels amazing, similar to what I would guess a male orgasm feels like in that it is explosive and the sensation of release increases the pleasure immensely. While that feeling of release is very short lasting and occurs at the onset of my cumming, the warm electric orgasm rocks my body for many heavenly seconds afterwards. It is intense and wonderfully satisfying.

Still, I can not guarantee if I will or won't, but sometimes I get that feeling just prior to cumming that tells me this one is going to be powerful and I am going to gush. My Husband loves it and enjoys the task of getting me off, and being in position between my legs to see me squirt is payoff. I think it is a combination of fascination for him and a feeling of taking immense pleasure in my pleasure. Orgasms are usually a difficult thing to actually observe after all, so this opportunity is one he doesn't like to miss!

We have a couple of little techniques to improve the chances of it happening, which I will get to shortly...

I have seen different surveys and research that suggests female ejaculation is experienced by between 20-40% of women, and a survey we conducted at The Erotic Woman.com of some 500 women in 2007 put the figure at 32%. So roughly a third do experience it, or at least have experienced it. I would say on a more personal basis amongst my girlfriends that figure is around the mark.

And I would bet that possibly more women experience it without realising it. Ever notice that after hot sex or particularly good masturbation that you seem, or the sheets seem, extra wet than usual? It is just totally my opinion, but I think it happens more than we understand, it's just that the feeling of the female orgasm is so wonderfully unique and diverse it may slip under the noticeable radar.

The controversial aspects of female ejaculation focus around whether we are biologically capable of doing it in the first place (we are...there are dozens of squirting genre adult films in the TEW's XXX Movie Theater as evidence), can it be controlled and done on demand (perhaps), and what is actually in the fluid ejaculated (is it pee for instance...it isn't, by the way, apparently it is similar in composition to a guy's semen sans the sperm of course! ).

In my humble opinion, there is now enough evidence from a research and anecdotal basis to put the controversy behind. Not to mention from my own personal experience , and I am a big believer in what I can feel and what my Husband can see.

So does every woman have the ability to do it? Physically, yes. But it is probably as much pyschological as it is physcial, because to achieve it I believe an ultimate state of relaxation and “being in the moment” is needed. You really have to let yourself go and feel the orgasm building and building, then at the crucial moment, push like you are trying to pee and it can happen. And as we know, many women struggle to let themselves completely go during sex, so that is a contributing factor.

I rarely achieve it during straight penetrative sex, especially never during a quicky (although that as it's own appeal of course!). I also don't get it during straight, gentle oral sex (again, this has it's own appeal). My most intense sex, when I can experience ejaculation most times, is actually while my Husband fucks me anally. We lay in a spooning position, and he enters me from behind (after lots of warm up first!). We rock slowly, and I can feel the heat building, that feeling of being filled is so amazing. But this is the key bit, he works one hand around me and slides two fingers into my pussy and strokes my G-spot (along the front wall of my pussy). The palm of that hand is positioned perfectly to rub my clit with friction, and this combination always drives me nuts. Then he wraps his other hand under me and works my breasts, pinching and stroking my nipples, cupping and squeezing, and if he starts to nibble on my neck I completely lose control and become wanton, the ultimate erotic woman. This is how I squirt, the intensity is extreme and I am swept away in pure pleasure and lustful, orgasmic bliss. I cum hard, it is an almost out of body experience, and I can feel that explosion of fluid when I do. I can orgasm 3 or 4 times like this in the space of 10 minutes, although interestingly, I only squirt the first time. My God do I get saturated though! This is my ultimate sex.

The other way I have achieved an ejaculative orgasm is with my Husband between my legs, using his fingers on my clit and working his tongue inside my pussy, especially whe he laps up towards my G-spot. His other hand usually works up towards my breasts. This is another pressure builder for me, and I am usually rocking wild after several minutes. If my Hubby can maintain or build his intensity in stimulating me, I will squirt right in his face which he loves. That's a wet badge of honor for him.

My girlfriend actually has provided another tip that might help, thanks Elise. What works for her is if her boyfriend applies pressure to her stomach just above her pubic bone as he is going down on her. She can squirt like this relatively easily, which she loves.

The secrets are obviously intensity, relaxation, going with the moment, complete release, combination, technique and length of stumulation. I am a believer that any woman can do it, again that is just my opinion though. You just have to have the right help, the belief you can do it, and LET GO!

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