Getting Your Way

It is one thing to have your beau whipped. It is another thing to have him whipped, and liking it. This is the stage that my honeydew (as in "honey do this" and "honey do that") is at. If his companions tease him about his whipped-ness, their words do not phase him. My friends are constantly retrieving my whip from the floor that I must have accidentally dropped after they watch me ask Gabe to do a task for me. Notice I used the term "ask" and not "tell". If you want to get your way in your relationship you have to do it tactfully. I found that there are three different approaches to getting your way: the innocent approach, the aggressive approach, and the guilt-trip approach. I will go over a few everyday situations that occur with my boyfriend for example.

Situation #1: I am by my lonesome in the living room watching TV while my boyfriend is on the computer in the study playing a game. I want him to pay a little attention to me for a moment.

Innocent: "Baby, I miss you." (This might sound silly to him because he is basically in the same room as me, but men think us women are silly and illogical anyway, and they have learned not to question our reasoning.)

Aggressive: "Come sit with me for a moment, please." in a very firm, no questions asked voice or "Come over here, stud." with a sultry trill (When I say "aggressive", to me that can mean haughtily or sexually; see what works for you.)

Guilt-trip: "I hope that video game loves you as much as I do." (I personally think guilt-tripping is cheating, but it does come in handy at times!)

Situation #2: I go to the bathroom and look in the cabinet for tampons. I realize that I do not have any more. I am in the middle of something (cooking dinner, writing, etc.) and do not have the time to run to the store.

Innocent: "Baby, I ran out of tampons." (If your beau is as whipped, err I mean as sweet, as my boyfriend then he will immediately offer to go get some for you.)

Aggressive: "I'm busy, but I need tampons. As in right now." (Making your "women stuff" sound urgent will really light a fire under your man's ass. I can't think of a way to make this situation sexy.)

Guilt-trip: "Could you run to the store and buy me some tampons considering that I'm going to be giving you head this whole week?" (Cheating, but true. At least in my case.)

Now, there are a few things you have to remember to do throughout the process of getting your way so that your honeydew will not balk.

Reward him. How do you get your puppy to continue doing tricks? By giving him a treat when he does his trick correctly, yes? Give him time alone with his hobbies or his friends. If you send him to the store, give him extra money to purchase something for himself. Please him sexually if that's what he really wants. Make him feel appreciated; that way he won't mind doing tasks for you. And always, ALWAYS say thank you.

Do things for him. Honestly, this should not be a one-way street. You should be willing to do things for him as well. Let's not kid ourselves, what we do will not be nearly as much as what they will do for us, but we do have to humor them. If you go the guilt-trip way, doing things for him is also a good source of fuel for that type of approach.

Pick the right moment. If you and your significant other were fighting, trying to get him to do something afterwards is probably not the best time to ask. If he is in the zone with something that is important, school or work related, it is probably best not to distract him. Striking out too many times will just make him regress, not progress to the stage that you want to be at.

Myths for this topic were as hard to pull from my mind as gum is hard to pull from a three-year-old's hair.

Myth: Women prefer to have whipped men.

FALSE. I know women who prefer being dominated by their men. I cannot relate, but this is what they tell me. I have seen it. I feel like I am in a time warp as I watch.

You have been informed. I hope your inner mistress is whipping some booty right now!

If you have any questions, praise, or topic ideas, please feel free to email B. M. Carter at Brandi_Layla@hotmail.com