Forcing
Posted on: Tue, 15/04/2008 - 19:49
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Forcing
I have a fantasy which is too be taken by surprise by a powerful man and forced into having rough sex against my will, but the sex ends up being wonderful. In my real mind the idea makes me feel ill, especially after living through an abusive marriage, but for some reason deep inside the thought stirs strong feelings of sexual pleasure that I cannot explain. I fear if this was ever to happen in real life the event would be terrible and destroying, and I think woman rape is disgusting, but it is just a feeling that I do not know why it is there. This is my secret fantasy that I do not share anywhere else than here.
I think this is a common fantasy but I do believe you can bring this fantasy to reality if you have the right person and are trusting in this person. You could tell your fantasy to a lover and let him take you at some time during the next week for example. You will be expecting, but also not so, so you will feel the rush you wish, and you may have that feeling of not being sure it is who you believe it to be. It is a very fearful fantasy, very on the edge.
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Let The Night Roll On.
Can understand the appeasl, for sure, but I don't think this is a fantasy you should bring into realtiy because there is just so much potantial for things to go wrong and really do some damage. Maybe that's part of the appeal.
My husband works with real rapists in sex therapy treatment, and he makes it clear these aren't guys you want to be involved with. Scary animals.
Here's something for you Havana Night; consider it something along the lines of rape-lite:
http://www.redtube.com/8518
This is dangerous territory and although I love my men to be forceful I must always know if I don't want what is happening then it must stop when I say so. Easy fantasy for many to have who haven't been assaulted or raped themselves, or know someone who has.
I completely understand what you're saying, but I agree with Lisa that it can be dangerous. there is such potential for mixed signals and regret. The last think you'd want is to be misunderstood and hurt or feel very horrible afterward.
Things can be fun if they're a bit rough without being "forced." For example, spontaneous sex that involves a little bit a hair pulling, pinning your arms down, hands to the throat, and spanking, or that kind of thing can be exhilarating, but mutually agreeable and safe.
Be careful.
Jaynie
Yes Jaynie, and also forced can be confused with being taken by surprise, something you could put the idea out there to your partner or a trusted lover. Actual "forced" sex isn't something to be toyed with in any way, IMO.
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If you have a spouse/regular partner you totally trust, maybe you can do something like what my hubby and I like to do. I will just tell him, "Ravish me!", and he knows what that means. I play a passive role and he gets to hold my arms so I can't touch him. We've been together 18 years so we're totally comfortable with each other. Or, what we haven't tried but I just thought of, have him wear a sexy mask (like Zorro) so there's a mystique about it. But don't surrender yourself with a stranger. Everyone's right about the danger possibility. Has to be with someone you trust 1000%. Good luck!
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