Does Fantasizing About Internet Porn Count As Cheating?
I read somewhere a while ago that the figure for regular internet users, adults of course, who have at least once viewed "adult material" is somewhere around the 80% mark. That's huge. And the % of people who have or do jerk of to that porn is about 2/3's of that massive number.
So if you are in a relationship, and you are or have fantasized or masturbated to internet porn (and I guess we could include videos or dvds or even sex stories in that too), does that constitute cheating in any way, shape or form?
I'm of the "no" persuasion. No harm no foul as such, as long as the extent of the fantasizing stays in your mind and your interest/attention to your partner doesn't wane I don't see how you could call it cheating.
Thoughts?
porn cheat?
This topic pisses me off. How can fantasizing count as cheating? You can give a lot in a relationship, inclduing committment and monogamy, but if you are going to start chaining your imagination as well you are going to be one unhappy person!
Cheating With Porn
If I was in a relationship I would be cheating everyday if fantasizing counted as cheating. What happens in your own imagination is your business alone. Everyone should have their own secret fantasy.
Cheating with Porn
I totally agree. It's not cheating if it's just viewing porn, with no interaction (other than masturbation). Fantasies are healthy and should be encouraged just short of the point where they interfere with your normal sex life. I think most people can use the sexual fuel they get from viewing porn to enhance their own love lives and then their partner will hopefully reap the benefits. Viewing porn is different than cyber sex though, which can be considered cheating, if you're engaging in a real online relationship with another person. I suppose different people might have different opinions on that. I think it's a form of cheating, but I would never rank it right up there with an actual, physical affair though.
Jaynie
Is porn cheating?
Matthew 5:27-28 (New International Version)
27 "You have heard that it was said, 'Do not commit adultery.'
28 But I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart."
I have met one woman who, when she found her husband had looked at porn, said the nearest she could get to describing her feelings was to say it felt like he had had an extramarital affair.
Porn cheat?
Then she should get a life because porn is just a form of entertainment that stimulates and can inspire people or couples to higher levels of sexual fulfillment. Maybe she should try looking at something she might like and which stimulates her, like reading an erotic story or looking at the yummy half naked men in these galleries or something. If she has a heart beat then something should stimulate her, and why not enjoy it? There must be problems in their relationship if she felt this way. It is silly.
Porn cheat?
I have to agree with Bridie. People in committed, stable, and secure relationships shouldn't have to fear a little harmless entertainment. Naked bodies are beautiful and we are sexual creatures by nature. Trying to put a lid on sexual desire is stifling and I think it would lead to resentment. Maybe they could surf some porn together and both enjoy it.
Jaynie